REASONS WHY PEOPLE PRETEND TO BE SOMEONE ELSE


Some times I  wonder why people ain’t what they say they are, have you ever wondered why?I want to believe that every one with low  self esteem has this issues. Well, These are probably some of the reasons.



 Low Self Esteem: This is when people do not believe in themselves,their dreams, determinations, it’s when people look down on themselves, because they are not happy with the person they actually are . This feeling is very depressing and can cause series of life threatening depression and blood pressure.

Trauma : Many people experience traumas which cause shame, self loathing and guilt.
These don't have to be traumas as serious as being molested or witnessing a death. It could be a little thing, such as a father being critically objective or a deceptive friends,or a serious illness.
Whatever the trauma, some people develop very  deep, core beliefs of who they are. Negative beliefs like:

I'm not good enough, I'm not smart, I'm not deserving of kindness or love, I'm a mistake ,I am not important, I'm not competent.

To protect themselves from further trauma and hide their pain, some people act in ways they normally wouldn't. It's not even intentional. They may try to be the idea of an absolutely perfect person. Whatever they do, it "numbs" the pain of the person having to deal with trauma or things related to the experience they had.

By not being their "authentic self" they think they are controlling their lives and the people around them. Control is very important and when the facade cracks, you will see the anger, sadness and desperation  and depression behind the pretense.

Societal Believes: It's really insane what the society has turned some people, they believe if you can't beat them you join them, this is an unhealthy form of self-preservation, people who pretend to be who they're not are looking for validation from society, recognition  and others, not from within themselves.

"Perhaps it's impossible to wear an identity without becoming what you pretend to be"
----Orson Scott Card


30 comments

Shauna C said...

Yes!! So beautifully written -xo

Shauna

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Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Thank you hun!Shauna.xox

Fabrizia Spinelli said...

You're totally right, great post!
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awhite said...

Society definitely influences us all- and some more than others. Great post, lady!

-Ashley
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Mariann Yip said...

I definitely appreciate this article. Thanks for sharing!

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That New Dress said...

Such a thought provoking post, great read hun xx

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Fe Samaia said...

Wow amazing post! Very deep and truthful <3

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Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Thank you sweetie Fabrizia.xox

Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Thank you awhite,You know right I totally agree!That's the fact hun!. Thank you for reading.

Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Aww!Mariann Yip you are so sweet. Thank you for dropping by.xox

Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Thank you sweetie,That New Dress.xox

Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Thank you darling.glad you loved it.xox

Sydney Style Blogger said...

Great insight hun! Thanks for sharing xx

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Sharon Wu of Style Lullaby said...

What a beautiful piece! Thanks for sharing. xo, sharon

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Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Thank you sweetie!Sydney Style Blogger.xox

Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Thank you hun!Glad you like it.Sharon cyber hugs!xox

Olaa Bobade said...

Very enlightening and it's kinda in line with my last post!
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Velvet Blush said...

This was a really interesting read :)

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Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Thank you dearie Olaa, Glad you love it.xox

Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Velvet thank you so much especially for dropping by.xox.

Elena Dal Maso said...

Maybe we are too influenced by society...
Lovely post :)


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Paloma Garcia Cuanda said...

Very interesting post!

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Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Most probably,thank you Elena.xox.

Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Thank you Paloma.xox

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Cy Palma said...

This is a really interesting post, I've seen many people faking who they are and it is something really sad, because that way they can hurt others, but especially themselves.

Cy | Dulce de Mango

Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Thank you darling Cy Palma,so glad you can relate to this.hugs xox

Gil Zetbase said...

Wonderful post!
Have a nice week-end!
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Chinwe Nwokoro said...

Thank you darling Gil Zetbase.Glad you loved it.xox

Anonymous said...

This is very true, nice post!

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